1) Assuming - this is when you assume how your teen will act and then act according to your assumptions. The problem is this ignores the ability of teens to learn and grow.
2) RescuingExplaining - rescuing prevents them from experiencing the consequences of their behavior. Explaining prevents them from discovering the meaning of things for themselves. This is what could be going on when a teen says "Stop treating me like a two year old!"
3) Directing - Think about how you feel when your boss tells you how to do every little detail of a project that you already know how to do or could figure out for yourself. What happens to your motivation and sense of responsibility?
4) Expecting - This is different from having appropriate expectations. Expecting is setting too high a standard and then criticizing everything that falls below.
How to be a guide
1) Checking - This involves respecting a person enough to ask what their understanding of a situation may be. It's "What do you think you will need for your trip" vs. "Now remember to take this and that and don't forget the other thing!"
2) Exploring - We explore when we ask questions such as Cheap Curry 3 ZERO 3 , "What was your understanding of when you were to be home?" vs. "Do you know how late you are?!" (Of course they know!) Getting their understanding puts the responsibility on them and off of you.
3) EncouragingInviting - This sends the important message that we believe the child to be valuable and intelligent. It's "What do you think." vs. "This is how you should believe and think." Asking "What's your opinion?" can work wonders for self esteem and communication.
4) Celebrating - This can simply be noticing progress. In our performance based society Cheap Curry 6 , it's easy to focus only on huge achievements. Communication is enhanced when we also celebrate what I call the "small successes." This is "Good job Cheap Curry 4 , see what you can do." vs. "Why didn't you do this." Having said all that Cheap Curry 5 , it's important to emphasize that the parents are the ones who need to be in charge. It's simply a matter of being in charge in a manner that builds barriers or in a manner that builds bridges.
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1. What length do I need?
The length you need will depend on the length of your own natural hair and what exactly it is that you want to achieve. You need to think about this before looking in to buying clip in hair extensions. Do you want to add only some volume to your natural hair? You might just want to thicken up the ends to make you hair look fuller and more groomed. If this is the case you only need to look at hair extensions which match you current length. Alternatively you might want to add some length to your hair. If adding length Cheap Curry 3 , you need to look at your own hair and roughly decide how many inches you want to add on. Below is a rough guide on lengths:
12鈥?length 鈥?br > From the back: shoulder blade height
From the front: just under the collarbone
16鈥?length 鈥?br > From the back: close to the bra line
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20鈥?length 鈥?br > From the back: just below the bra line
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2. What weight shall I choose?
The weights in clip in hair extensions can vary a lot. Many sets of clip ins are 100 grams. This weight will probably not be enough of a very full head unless you have fine hair. This weight should work nicely for adding volume though.
There are some great clip in hair extensions on the market that are 150 鈥?160 grams. This is a great weight for a full head of clip in hair extensions if you are adding some length.
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3. What colour should I choose?
A dead give away with any kinds of hair extensions if the colour of the hair extensions do not match perfectly with you own natural hair. You might as well wear a sign around your neck saying 鈥渓ook at my fake hair鈥?. This Is something I鈥檓 sure you definitely don鈥檛 want.